Just One Question, or Maybe Two

A few weeks back a friend posted a questionnaire she'd given her kids and shared their answers on Facebook. My kids have always liked these kinds of things, I have several from when they were younger that would be fun to post but I'd have to dig them out of boxes. 

This one was interesting because it focused on their perceptions of me. Some of their answers made me laugh, others were interesting or silly, but when I had gotten the answers back from the 4 of them mostly my heart was just full. I was surprised and pleased at how well they know me and grateful for how evident it is that they like me too. They are my world! 

Here's the questionnaire and each of their answers. 

Without ANY prompting, ask your kids these questions. Its a great way to see what they think. Copy and repost with your child's name and age. 

1. What is something I always say to you? 

Brynne: Great job.

Drew: I'm going to need you to pick up your room

Garrett: Garrett, I need you caught up on seminary, Garrett, get your room clean

I can't handle the mess, Guys, I'm just really stressed out can you do this one thing, I love yer guts

Wes: Are you doing okay up in Idaho 

Love your guts!

2. What makes me happy? 

Brynne: When I'm happy  

Drew: skiing and reading books. 

Garrett: A clean house, when me Wes and drew are hanging out together, family trips(when we're not in the car), when you're with your friends

Wes: Having a clean house and a drama free life

3. What makes me sad? 

Brynne: When I'm angry 

Drew: when the house is a mess and you're tired

Garrett: Dirty house, Fighting, When Wes left for college, Being sick, Fighting again

Being stressed

Wes: Not being able to run or read or just being too busy

4. How do I make you laugh? 

Brynne: When you tickle my bones 

Drew: When you're exhausted! 

Garrett: When you do or say something savage or silly, when you joke with us, When you show us a funny video that was popular 3 months prior but you just saw it for the first time that day

Wes: When you talk about current popular culture things and use them in context it is hilarious

5. What was I like as a child?

Brynne: I have no clue

Drew: I think you were super funny and mischievous 

Garrett: Probably very organized. Little. 

I imagine you being small but mighty

Wes: You were outgoing and liked to have as much fun as humanly possible.

6. How old am I? 

Brynne:39 

Drew:39

Garrett:39

Wes 39

7. How tall am I? 

Brynne I think 5'4" 

Drew: 5'4"

Garrett 5'4"

Wes 5'3" but probably shrinking

8. What is my favorite thing to do?

Brynne:  Hang out with me 

Drew: spend time with your kids

Garrett: Ski, Be with your friends, go on vacation, be on the boat, Be with all the kids together. To do the Dishes

Wes: Plan activities before/during/after a vacation

9. What do I do when you're not around? 

Brynne: Clean 

Drew: Sing really loudly to music and I bet you dance too! 

Garrett: Clean, cook, read, worry about us, Facebook, run, run arrends

Wes: Browse the interwebs for dank memes and then look up our slang on urban dictionary so you can use words correctly 

(Wes you're a dork)

10. What am I really good at?

Brynne:  Reading 

Drew: You're really good at skiing,  giving advice, reading people, cleaning, cooking, you have a good sense of style, running and wakeboarding (I made him stop here, it was a little embarrassing but I was totally flattered too!)

Garrett: Doing that one silly face, skiing, making us laugh, being ezausted (this is a family joke) saying your on a diet when we all know you have a "secret" Oreo stash. Running, you're probably still really good at words with friends, keeping the house clean, figuring people out, knowing how to deal with sticky situations

Wes: Girls. You know lots about girls. You're a really good listener. But also running and stuff and planning.

11. What is something I'm not good at?

Brynne: So you aren't very good at trying not to laugh when I tickle your feet!

Drew: Keeping your sanity when the house is messy

Garrett: Staying on a diet, Not being stressed about a clean house, getting the right kind of granola bars

finishing a marathon without being broken

Being on time, estimating time of arrival 

listening when I say not to make my bed cause I will actually clean it up

Wes: Relaxing

12. What do I do for a job? 

Brynne: Sell houses 

Drew: well you used to be a real estate agent now you take care of us and the house and the bills and pretty much everything to keep this family functioning

Garrett: you're a mom

Wes: Sell dank memes on the black market. But actually, you're the most fantastic stay at home mom, with a large variety of talents and abilities.

13. What is my favorite food? 

Brynne: Cafe rio 

Drew: cafe rio salads

Garrett: Oreos and cafe Rio

Wes: Lasagna? 2nd guess: fancy salads

14. What do you enjoy doing with me? 

Brynne: Shopping and getting our nails done  

Drew: Going to the lake and to China Peak pretty much anything with you, the possibilities are endless 

Garrett: Pretty much anything, traveling, talking, wrestling, messing with you, going skiing, going to the beach with you. All kinds of stuff really 

Wes: I enjoy talking on the phone with you, and when we are together I like just talking with you, messing with you, or going out and adventuring with you :)

I Did It!!

I did it again! This time was different though. I didn't train. I was undecided if I was even going to come in the last two months leading up to the marathon. My life got busier and harder. I was gone a lot and feeling a bit buried by what life was throwing at me. If I ran twice a week it was a good week. I got in an almost 8 mile run in France in June and didn't run further than that until two weeks ago. A month ago I started running 3-4 days a week but only between 3-4 miles each time. I ran 9 miles with my sister and friends two weeks ago and the following week I ran 4 miles with one friend and then two hours later ran another  7 miles with another friend for a whopping 11 miles and not even all at once.  This, my non running friends, is not the way to train for a marathon! I knew there was no way I was going to be able to finish.

(missing my 2009 charm)

I have run in the St George marathon every year for the last 7years.  I had finished it 3 times, twice I had gotten to mile 21 and had to stop once because of an injury and once because I passed out, and last year I got to mile 15 when I called it quits. I had come down with the flu and spent the next 2 days in bed at the hotel! I didn't want to come and have another incomplete marathon. Something about having more incomplete races than finishes bothered me.  

As I thought more and more about missing out on one of my favorite weekends of the year I knew I would be so disappointed if I didn't at least come out. As if the lure of Swig cookies and shopping at Pan wasn't draw enough, I decided I was going to come and at least start the race! I'm running another Ragnar relay in three weeks and my last leg will be 8.1 miles of hard. I decided to consider my St George run on the course a training run for Ragnar. My goal was to make it anywhere between 12 and 15 miles, just because that would be longer than anything I've run in a year.

I was so excited to be there with my sister and Jason and supporting my friends Jill and Sam who were running their first marathons. Jill had trained the way an athlete trains because that's just who she is. She also happens to be lighting fast. I was so excited to see how fast she could do this! 

We had a blast at the expo. Jill left her credit card with a vendor and had to sing head shoulders knees and toes into the expo's sound system to get it back, and I had the pleasure of being one of her back up dancers. 

We took silly pictures at the green screen, 

bought running belts, shirts and shoes, sampled all the newest Cliff products and even attended the first timers clinic!

We drove the course so Sam and Jill would know exactly what to expect.

I even practiced my start ;)

And of course we went out to dinner to load up on carbs!

We went back to the hotel and made final clothing selections, pinned our bibs on our shirts, made a few last minute purchases to add to the music play list, and I even topped the night off with a shot of NyQuil Zzzzz just so I could get some rest.

When we left the hotel at 4:45 and headed for the buses I was sure I hadn't slept more than a handful of hours, making the entire trip exactly like every other St George Marathon weekend I'd had to date.  The only difference this year was that I knew I wasn't going to finish. Only there was this nagging little part of me that just wanted to try to anyway.

There are times in life where it seems that everything is going your way and there are times that you feel like you're paddling upstream and the only option is to keep paddling or drown. The last few weeks I hadn't been sure which of those two options would be worse. I wanted to prove to myself that I can do hard things but I knew it was totally unrealistic. I am several pounds heavier than usual, had no real long runs under my belt, emotionally drained, and physically exhausted.  This left me with zero expectations but with a hearty dose of desire.

I met up with one of my college roommates at the starting line

We waited in line for the port a potties and dropped our clothes bags into the truck, danced a little to the music blaring from the sound system and then it was time for the race to start

I ran the first 4 miles with my sister. 

Then I stopped to wait in a line for the bathroom and she kept moving.  I stopped to take pictures of the sun coming up over the mountains, 

the thousands of runners in bright colors covering two lanes of highway,

 and the guy carrying the American flag all 26.2 miles.  

I gave high fives to the toddlers holding out their hands along side the road in Veyo.

 I took a video of the guy with the belly revealing sweater and curly haired wig banging on a cow bell to cheer on the runners. I ate little banana pieces at two different aid stations and thanked the volunteers.

I got one of my calves rubbed down with Bengay, ran through every single misting station, and took pretzel pieces a bystander was offering to runners.

As I came into town and went to give a high five to a lady on the side of the road we realized we knew each other and instead went in for a giant bear hug! I was thrilled to see my dear friend Sherri  and even happier still to see all of her kids just a few feet ahead on the side of the road. I stopped for hugs and took pictures and continued on. The miles were adding up and I was getting closer to the finish line.

I got a popsicle from a sweet family handing them out to the runners as they passed in front of their house. I said yes please to another family who had brought their hose out to the street and offered to help any of the runners cool down as they passed by. I slowed down to enjoy the grouping of 7 standing house fans one resident had plugged into extension cords and brought out the street. And then I was on that final stretch of the course, about to finish the race.

For a minute I ran behind Mark Scoffield and Sherri who joined him for a minute on that last stretch. And then it was just me and one other guy in front of me. I don't know what possessed me to decide it was necessary, especially since I had stopped so many times along the course for silly reasons, but for whatever reason I just had to catch and pass that guy.  I caught him less than 50 feet from the finish and dang it felt good!

I stifled back a sob after I crossed that finish line and couldn't hold back my smile.  I was and am still shocked that I finished. I felt better than I ever have after running that course.

I found my sister in the finishers area and learned she had come in just four minutes ahead of me! So lame that we could have run the whole thing together and were that close to each other! She had bigger problems though, namely, dehydration. Lucky girl got a bag of IV fluids right there laying on the grass!

Jill had finished in 3:02 qualifying for Boston in her first ever marathon. Sam finished in 3:56 and Tara and I were 5:05 and 5:09.  We were finishers.

Jason teased that the take home from this is just not to train. I've been trying to decide what it really is though. Maybe just taking the pressure off and removing the expectations we have for ourselves or we think others have allows us to see what we are really capable of. Or maybe its just that while we may not always feel up to life's challenges or that we are prepared to handle the things that come our way but if we have the drive and desire we just might surprise ourselves. Either way, there are two things I will definitely be bringing home from this weekend though, sore legs and a finishers medal!

I Play, I Live

Lets be real, life is hard. While we all struggle with different sets of circumstances, the fact remains, we all struggle.  We can focus on the hard choices, the poor health, the loneliness, the bitterness, the consequences of someone else's poor decisions, just plain bad luck and things we just don't understand or we can focus on the good.  I like to stay busy so that I don't have to think about the hard things. I like to train for running events. I like hiking in the mountains surrounded by nothing but God's creations and the voices of my friends.  I like laying on a sandy beach and listening to the waves. I like to loose myself in great music and I love to dance. I like to be that first set of ski tracks on a powdery mountain side. And I love to get the behind my boat and just play.  After a couple of weeks with ridiculous amounts of hard things, back luck, mean people, and so many things out of my control I went out on the boat with my kids and husband. Just as the sun was setting and we were about to come in I decided it was my turn to get behind the boat. The water was smooth as can be, the sky was gorgeous, I was with my family and I was just playing. It felt so good! 

My husband took a video of me out there that night. I love the reminder it is to me to just live and focus on the good things because there are so many! Thanks Jeff for being my biggest fan!

Always CLIMB and zip!

There is a new Zip Line set up on the North Shore and its AMAZING!

The equipment is top notch

The views were awesome

The zips were long and over lush landscape

It was fun for all!

But it wasn't just zip lines 

There were a few stations where there were different kinds of rope pulleys you used to pull yourself up to the zip platforms

Garrett and Drew raced each other up 

cute litte drew actually held his own pretty well 

We had fun with the guides and various contests between the groups zipping on the different colored lines

one of our last zips we got to try with no hands and upside down

They said i was the first they'd seen go down like that 

We had two bridges to cross like this and they were really cool

It was a full day getting over to the other side of the island and back but so worth it! We will definitely be going back!

I was of course thrilled to make it back in time to watch the sun go down.